How to endure separation from the favourite
How to endure separation from the favourite
When two enamoured meet together, their hearts fight in a unison, they understand each other from a half-word, so it is good and cosy together that the whole world ceases to exist for them. And during this moment enamoured it seems that so it will be eternal. However, life is very unpredictable, and in it there can be at times unforeseen situations by the person. One of such situations – test by separation, to which two enamoured is necessary for passing to strengthen own relations and to be convinced that nearby there is that person who is necessary.
Separation can happen for various reasons. For example, present that your beloved have sent in business trip, or to go into higher education in other country, or it has simply left in other state on earnings to support the family – the reasons on which there is a separation, it is a lot of. Thus it is a question, as you understand, about separation not per day, not for a week, and from half a year and more. Will wait the half? Or feelings will cool down and will pass into nothingness, as if snow on spring? For those who has answered positively last question, can not continue article reading – it is not necessary to you. For the same who has unequivocally decided to save a good fellowship with darling even on distance who has decided to worry all pain and loneliness of separation, but despite of everything to remain correct to darling for you this article. I am convinced that you will find in it for yourselves a lot of helpful information which, of course, completely will not release you from the sufferings, but will make separation from the person of less painful for you.
Dear reader, you for certain already had time to notice a little unusual name of article “ How to endure separation from… ” also it is assured that each of you has thought about the same: “ Separation from whom? ”. Do not worry – it will be a question of separation from the person. Simply men and the woman differently endure separation from the half that is why to give absolutely universal advice for both floors it is not obviously possible, after all that approaches for the woman, can obviously not approach for the man. To that an example council: “ Change a hairdress, update the wardrobe”. Agree, hardly hairdress change will essentially smooth to the man a pain from separation from the girlfriend. But what effect will bring it to the girl at separation from the guy!
So, I suggest not to lose precious time and at once to pass to a practical advice.
How to endure separation from the guy. Councils for women. Not a secret that women are more emotional, rather than men, and to distract it from the unpleasant memoirs connected with separation, not so that and is simple. Unlike the man (do not take offence, there are also exceptions) the woman, as a rule, completely “ dissolved” in the beloved, accepting it as an integral part of own life. Especially it is an appreciable brightly at the first stages of development of relations when separation from the object of love in a pair of clocks is capable to force to lose the woman emotional balance and to begin to cry. What to speak about separation dlinnoju in a year – it also is at all capable to enter the woman into a condition of deep depression, to lodge in its heart fear, doubts and a pain. During the long separation in a head of the woman are carried by one million thoughts: “ And suddenly it will change to me! ” “ and that if its feelings will die away! ” “ with it and if something happens” etc.
Quite often at the time of separation with loved the woman starts to become reserved, ceases to communicate even with the best friends, ceases to watch itself. Sobbings in become a pillow at night norm for the woman. She very often can call to the beloved and, choking with tears, to admit feelings, to say that cannot live without it. Quite often given behaviour of the woman to not clearly man, and it starts to think that the woman late calls and hysterics to a receiver simply scoffs at it. All these experiences of the woman are waste of forces and nerves as separation is separation – here to change nothing. And scandals, hysterics and the sobbings arranged with the woman, are capable to only spoil relations and to keep away enamoured from each other. From time to time the woman so strongly exhausts itself that starts to think that the sufferings – it is its destiny, and nothing can be changed.
Fortunately to change a situation in this case is not only probably, but it is also extremely desirable. To make separation from darling for the woman less painful, it is recommended to make the following:
1. To be active. The basic council which should be necessarily observed, differently negative emotions and experiences will overflow you with a head and will carry away in the abyss of long depression. Go in for sports: get the subscription in swimming pool, visit a gym, make the pedestrian walks or be engaged in run – in a word, choose that kind of playing sports which involves you most of all. Besides, that sports will relieve you of thoughts about separation with loved, it also excellent means of preventive maintenance of early depression.
2. Descend develop. You planned to meet for a long time old friends, but in any way did not find time on it? It is perfect! Then urgently take in hands the phone with them and make an appointment. At last setschas you had some days off in which with advantage can spend behind dialogue with friends. Good friends never will allow to you to miss, and you will come back much less often to thoughts on separation. Where you will go – in the park, in restaurant, at the cinema, or simply will invite friends to itself home – it is absolutely unimportant, the main thing that your company was approaching.
3. Take care of the own life. There is a set of ways to raise to itself mood which do not affect in any way the men, but on women make enormous effect. One of these ways – beauty salon visiting. Be engaged in the appearance – replace clothes or change a hairdress. For reception of the maximum effect from the given council arrange to itself shopping.
4. Plunge into work. And work, appears, can be very useful! Complete immersing in work will not give you the possibility and time to long on the beloved, and also with a high share of probability will favorably affect your personal efficiency that will serve as a springboard for movement upward on a career ladder. Besides you have a person for the sake of whom you should go on these of a victim – your beloved. Imagine, as your beloved will be proud of your successes in a career field.
5. Be engaged in self-improvement. After separation with loved you, for certain, will have a lot of free time in the evenings and, instead of lying in the evenings on a bed and to be killed concerning separation, register in any circle or training on subjects interesting you is better. It can be actor’s skill, dress-making courses, training for bookkeepers, courses of learning of foreign language, etc.
6. Keep a diary. Every day conduct records of of what you thought and that you have made for a day. Diary conducting will allow you to concern more easy a current situation, to order the thoughts and after your beloved will return to re-read records together with it. The main rule of conducting a diary – any grusnyh notes! Do not write to a diary so I miss you” “ I cannot live without you,” “ in your absence all is melancholy and sad”. Write to a diary only the most cheerful and joyful moments which have occurred to you for the day that will allow to forget about a negative, connected with long separation, and to be adjusted on a positive harmony.
7. Come to the beloved. If your beloved is not in an opposite part of the globe, you can pay it a visit. Only necessarily warn the beloved that will arrive, in order to avoid unforeseen situations. If you cannot arrive – keep in contact with it at each possibility – call and write the message, correspond by means of e-mail. The main thing, do not to allow your feelings to cool down.
Following the above-stated councils to women it will be much easier to endure separation from darling, whatever long it was.